Competitive Family Members
I’m writing this E-mail Blast immediately after the Super Bowl and the Raven’s victory.
While John’s team won, the Harbaugh Family is the true winner. The intense pressures of raising a family are magnified by competition. To have two sons compete for the title of Super Bowl World Championship and stay brotherly is a miraculous accomplishment of great parenting and a strong family.
In the culinary world, I remember a similar competition between the two Voltaggio Brothers for the title of Top Chef. I was fortunately invited to the screening party for the final episode. And while Bryan Voltaggio didn’t win, I sensed in him a feeling of victory as his brother Michael claimed the prize.
The Voltaggio mother was credited by both sons as the reason for their skill and drive. They saw in her a good example and both wanted to do her proud – no doubt this is the same motivation for the two Harbaugh brothers. Their accomplishments are a testament to the drive, discipline, determination, and the equal love Mr. and Mrs. Harbaugh have for both of their sons.
While raising a family is difficult, relationships can get more complicated if and when a child feels like they are not loved “as much” as a sibling. Sibling rivalry is bound to happen at some level of family life. Consider Jacob and Esau’s sense of competition, or the rivalry amongst the disciples, as seen in Mathew 18:1 when they asked who would be the “greatest” in Heaven. But a rivalry doesn’t have to ruin a family.
There may be days when one sibling acts more lovable than the other, but parents have a great responsibility to raise each child with the same amount of love – even if it requires that one child occasionally gets a little more attention (or discipline) than the other.
Competition in the case of the Harbaugh’s or Voltaggio’s is taken to a whole new level. But the classiness of the people who raised them can become a great example for all parents and all children – especially if the siblings can get through the competition without destroying their family love for one another.
Even though I joke around that my parents love me best (I’m the priest for goodness sake haha), I know my parents love all their children equally. Similar to how God treats His children, parents have to see each child as an individual, recognizing different temperaments while making sure there are concrete signs of equal love to each child in the family.
Here are some tips to help parents that may have to deal with competitive kids:
Raising a family is hard. It gets even more complicated when the children become competitive. Disordered competitiveness breeds jealousy, unhealthy rivalry, and can tear the family apart. Parents will sometimes need some life coaching to help them get through unique difficult situations, but it is important to remember that children are not only competing with one another, but they’re also competing for the greatest victory of all: your love for them.
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Let us pray:
Father, may competition bring out the best in us. May we learn how to deal well in our relationships so that, imitating Your equal love for all, we may help Your children to be raised with a great sense of love, kindness for each other, and true family support. May families be victorious in that they remain close to each other in good times and in bad, and even in the wins and losses. God bless the Harbaugh family! Through Christ our Lord. Amen!
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