Posted March 12th, 2014 | CRS Rice Bowl, From the Feedbag, Lent, Recipes, Video


Kitchen Confessions

NOTE: Last week, I started off talking about Lent….by referring to it as Advent. Sorry about that! Many readers caught it right away and it has since been corrected. Glad to know that Lent means that much to many of you, so God bless you during this Holy Season of Lent and beyond.

As we like to generate conversation, here is some FOOD FOR THOUGHT: 


  • How do you explain Confession to non-Catholics or non-practicing Catholics?
  • How many times do you think is a healthy number of times to go to Confession?
  • What’s the hardest part about getting to confession?  And how do you deal with it?

Post your questions and comments below.




The soon-to-be SAINT John Paul II giving a much younger looking Fr. Leo and my chalice a special blessing.

Whenever I meet with chefs, I oftentimes get them to make a “confession” about how after a busy dinner shift, instead of cooking something healthy or fancy, they’ll often settle for fast, diner, or comfort foods. Confessions are just a part of life. In this “From the Feed Bag” we go deeper into the purpose of Confessions.

Dear Fr. Leo, 

Why do Catholics HAVE to go to confession? Why can’t they just get forgiveness from God directly? 

Thanks, KT 

Dear KT and everyone who asks themselves this same question,

Christ gave the apostles very clear commands, which I’ll summarize:

“Go into the world and preach the Good News! Baptize nations in the name of the Father, Son, and Spirit! Forgive Sins – a sign that we are doing what He wants. And above all, LOVE ONE ANOTHER.”

It’s funny how people forget Jesus created the Church in order to forgive sins. It’s more than a place to go when people need of a social service, a good background for wedding photos, or somewhere to socialize. Most importantly, Church is where we come to know God, and that we are NOT God. It’s a place to know God’s love by receiving His forgiveness.

The Wailing Wall, where Believers understand the wall as a physical manifestation of God’s Presence.

The Confessional is the place where the Alexander Pope cliché confronts our very reality: “To err is human, to forgive is divine.” As we are called to become more like God, Divine Providence has given us the Church to be that place where forgiveness is understood as a sacrament and not just a good idea.

A healthier understanding of sin gives us a healthier understanding of humanity and the Church. God knew humanity so well, he gave us a place where we can be forgiven. In this question, so typical of a fast food mentality of forgiveness, we try to avoid or skip a real, accountable, and practical process of forgiveness.

For example, if we hurt a loved one, do we just say in our own minds, “Please forgive me”, and think,”That’s good enough.”?

Rather, we know a process is required, which includes an examination of what we did wrong, getting enough courage to go to that person, and humbly telling them we know we did something wrong – i.e., actual verbalization of our sins and sorrow. The process continues with hearing those words, I forgive you. Finally, the process of forgiveness requires some action to demonstrate true contrition and a willingness to do better.  

Traditional “Confessional Box” located in the sacristy of the St. John the Baptist Church in Israel.

These are the steps of forgiveness we take with others. It’s the same process we ought to take with God. This is exactly what happens in Church, which is “The Body of Christ” – the very person we hurt whenever we sin. We have to remember that Church is not a hotel for saints but a hospital for sinners.

In this Lenten Season we can keep questioning the process of forgiveness, or we can trust that the Church is God’s answers to our prayers. Remember, studying the history of confession shows that we’ve been doing this since Christ started His Church. A more knowledgeable, humbler, and trusting approach to this particular Sacrament can only help us in our relationship with God, simply by better recognizing the Church as “The Body of Christ.”

Young folks from St. Patrick Church in Oak Grove, Minnesota, who know the importance of Confession.

Let us pray:  


Lord, give us Grace to use this Holy Season of Lent to seek a humble forgiveness of our sins, so that by receiving Your mercy, we can in turn forgive one another.  We ask this through Christ our Lord.  Amen.



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Posted in CRS Rice Bowl, From the Feedbag, Lent, Recipes, Video | 5 Comments

5 Responses to “From the Feedbag: Kitchen Confessions”

  • Father, can you suggest a helper for confession? Most of the ones I’ve seen seem to only list serious sins ( “have you helped someone procure an abortion”) and aren’t too useful to me in my quiet life. It’s not that I think I don’t sin, I just have a hard time remembering them for confession.

    Posted by Sarah on March 12th, 2014 at 4:53 pm.
  • Hi Father,
    the way I explain Confession (Sacrament of Reconciliation) is this way:
    God already knows everything we have done wrong; He watched us as we did it! But we as humans need to know for sure that we are forgiven for what we did when we have made up our minds that we are truly sorry for what we did. When we say our sins out loud to a priest who sits as the person of Christ in the Sacrament, we name and claim what we did. There are no excuses in the confessional. We have to admit it, and strive to do better. The priest also sits in the place of the people or community we have offended by our sin. When we hear the words that we are forgiven and we, do our penance, we KNOW that we are forgiven. What a relief to know that even if we cannot tell the person or community that we are truly sorry, we now know that we are forgiven by God!

    Posted by Michele Laughlin on March 12th, 2014 at 8:44 pm.
  • Dear Sarah,
    Get a hold of Father Larry Richard’s CD,”Confession” from Lighthouse Media or go to his website and look for “the List”.

    Posted by Eileen on March 13th, 2014 at 12:43 am.
  • Thank-you Fr. Leo for your explaintion on confession. I happened to go today. I feel much better.

    Posted by Fr. Leo on March 13th, 2014 at 10:08 am.
  • Great insight and comments. Thanks for them. Keep sharing!


    Posted by Fr. Leo on March 13th, 2014 at 10:08 am.

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